Every morning when I lifted a little body out of a crib, big blue eyes looking to me for direction and nourishment, I felt a stabbing sense of being alone...
It was more of a heaviness, knowing I was the one who would choose everything that would touch my child's life that day, and most days..
The question that pummeled me day after day after day was this: Was I doing it right? - Susan Besze Wallace, author of "The New Mom's Guide to life with baby"
The quotation above describes exactly what I felt as a new mom (especially in the early days of caring for my two newborns). It is one thing to know what you expect from yourself as a mother before you become one, but walking (or rather stumbling and even tumbling) down the path of caring for and parenting your child/children can totally deviate from your original expectations.
This huge responsibility that can weigh so heavily on us Moms, often leads to Mommy Guilt. And when you are riddled with guilt, you will feel even more weighed down and drained, with even more doubt in being your best mommy self.
Top 3 tips on dealing with Mommy Guilt
As an energy healer specializing in emotional healing, here are my top 3 tips on dealing with mommy guilt:
3) Feel love for yourself.
There are so many moms out there, yet each motherhood journey is so very unique. When you are walking the journey filled with so many unknowns, being your own best friend is so crucial in helping you keep the faith to keep on walking, stumbling, tumbling down the path, so you'll get to the parts when you'll skip, hop and run with glee with the family you have built.
Yes Mommy Guilt is a common phenomenon, but that does not mean you have to tolerate it and let it wear you down. Give yourself a little hug after you have processed the guilt and forgiven yourself. It is okay to be vulnerable. What you feel about your own motherhood journey is the sum total of all your experiences. Love each experience as part of your life.